Divorce is going to change your future. There’s no way around it. Some of those changes may be positive; if you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship, for instance, you finally get relief from that. Some may be negative; if you have kids, you may not get to see them as much as you want. But, no matter what, there are going to be changes.

To help you prepare, here are a few things that you should know about divorce and the aftermath:

  1. It is possible, in some cases, to alter the agreements you make at the time of the divorce. For example, changes in income can lead to changes in obligations regarding child support. However, this can be a complex process and you cannot change everything, so do not rush through the process.
  2. Odds are that you and your ex are not going to continue to be friends after you split up. It does happen in rare cases — there are always stories about celebrity couples going on vacation together or something of that nature — but most people can’t do it. That said, you are going to stay involved with your ex if you have kids or financial ties.
  3. Typically, life feels like it costs more after divorce. That’s because a lot of the costs of living double when it’s two people living separately, as opposed to two people living together.

When facing these types of changes and hurdles, it is very important to know all of your rights and what legal options you have during the divorce process to make things go as smoothly as possible.