Communication issues can ruin a relationship, and studies have linked it repeatedly to divorce. While poor communication may not be as obvious of a cause as infidelity or financial problems, it still causes a lot of couples to split up.
Examples of communication habits that can do this include the following:
- Your spouse may say all of the right things, but his or her body language does not match those words. For instance, your spouse may say that everything is “fine” while rolling his or her eyes and indicating that nothing is fine.
- Your spouse may not be authentic. You never know when you’re getting the truth. Some people worry about arguments and lie to prevent them, but this just causes long-term tension.
- Your spouse may constantly talk over you. You find it impossible to get a word in. Whenever you have an important discussion, your spouse just cuts you off and takes over, never giving you a chance to speak.
- Your spouse may never be polite. It feels like a small thing, but there is a huge difference between saying “Would you please help me clean up a little bit?” and saying “You need to clean up this house.” When people are constantly short with each other and have negative interactions, it turns them against one another.
- Your spouse may act like he or she has to “win” every conversation. You spouse constantly wants to prove you wrong or get you to change your opinion. This turns even minor conversations into arguments.
If these communication habits do end your marriage, make sure you know what legal options you have.