You've heard of deadbeat parents, but have you ever really thought about what it means? Parents are actively abandoning children, perhaps after a divorce.
Why would they do it? Understanding why this happens is the first step to solving the problem. Below are a few reasons experts have noted over the years.
- Parents may not want to pay child support, and they've asked for modifications. The court turned them down. In response, they simply leave to avoid the payments.
- Parents don't have stable jobs or lives. They're moving all the time, so they just lose touch with the kids and focus on themselves.
- Some think that they're not wanted. They may believe that either the child or the other parent would rather have them stay away.
- Still others didn't want to be parents in the first place. They may even feel they were tricked. They put their own desires ahead of the child.
- Some believe that the court system itself is unfair, in relation to custody or support. They don't like how the rulings were handed down. This doesn't mean it is unfair, but, if they believe it, even when they're wrong, it can ruin that relationship.
- Some parents have second families. They may be married. They spend time with those kids instead, even if it means abandoning the children from the other relationship.
These are not good reasons to abandon children or responsibilities, but it's still important to consider them to understand the issue. It's crucial for parents to know all of their legal rights when conflicts arise and both parents are not on the same page.
Source: The Spruce, "21 Reasons Why Deadbeat Parents Bail on Their Kids," Jennifer Wolf, accessed Oct. 18, 2017