When it comes to child custody, parents often think mostly about sharing the kids. Each parents has the children for a set amount of time, trading them back and forth. Parents see each other at the swaps, of course, but they’re not spending time together.
Some parents take this to the next level, though, especially when it comes to vacations. They’ll still travel together, with the kids, even when they’re no longer married.
Is it a good idea? There are both pros and cons.
On the plus side, this is a healthy way for both parents to spend time with the kids. Children do get a lot from having both parents involved, and this is one way to guarantee that it happens.
Plus, kids may be busy, even in the summer. They may not have time for separate vacations with mom and dad. By going together, everyone gets to take time off from work or school and spend it relaxing.
One of the problems, though, is that children may not really know how to read the situation. Remember, your kids may not know much about why you got divorced, and they may want to see you and your ex get married again. They might take the trip as a sign that it’s going to happen.
If it’s not, you don’t want to give them false hope and the emotional roller-coaster that goes along with it. You may be able to stave that off by talking to them first, but not always.
When you’re working on your child custody agreement, don’t be afraid to think outside of the box. Consider all of these creative solutions in advance so that the legal agreement can be set up to create the life you want for your kids.
Source: Chicago Tribune, “Vacationing with your ex-spouse: A do or a don’t?,” Heidi Stevens, accessed Aug. 23, 2017