You're paying child support to your ex. You may not be thrilled to see that money leave your bank account every month, but you're happy that it's at least being used to help your children. You want them to have the best life possible, after all.
What you find yourself wondering, though, is exactly what that money can be used for you. You don't want to simply give your ex a second income; that money is supposed to be for the children alone. If you're concerned, note that some things child support can be used for include:
-- Medical care. This can help with things like insurance, co-pays and extra expenses that aren't covered by insurance.
-- Food, shelter and clothing. These are the three big necessities that children deserve, and the support payments can help make them affordable so your kids don't have to go without just because you and your ex split up.
-- Childcare. If your child is too young to be home alone and you and your ex work, the money can be used to help pay for a babysitter or a daycare.
-- School. You may have to pay tuition at some schools, regardless of the child's age. Even at a free public school, though, there are school-related expenses, like books, folders, pencils, paper or supplies for a science fair project.
This list doesn't cover every single thing the money can be used for, but it gives you a good idea of the types of expenses that can be covered. If you think your former spouse is using the money for unapproved purchases, it may be time to look into your legal options.
Source: FIndLaw, "What Does Child Support Cover?," accessed March 10, 2017