If you’re planning a summer vacation with your children, you may have some questions about how much you need to let you ex know. In general, it’s best to be as open as possible, with the understanding that this is the other parent of your children and he or she has the right to know where they are and what they are doing.

While you don’t necessarily need to provide your ex with an hour-by-hour itinerary, a basic list of where you’ll be when and contact information for the hotels you plan on staying at is a good idea. You’ll also need to make sure to check your custody order and parenting time agreement to be sure that your vacation is within the bounds of any specific requirements in those orders.

For example, many court orders require the vacationing party to notify the other parent of intent to exercise summer parenting time a certain amount in advance. You may also be limited to how many consecutive days or weeks you can have the children, which will likely impact your vacation plans.

If your ex objects to your vacation, it’s important to stay calm. As long as you are within the parameters set forth in the custody order and have given all the advance notice required, you should be fine. However, there are situations where disagreements over summer vacations can devolve and the parties end up back in the family courts. If this happens, it’s important to talk to an attorney about what this means for you and what you should do about any parenting time in the mean time.

Source: FindLaw, “Child Custody Tips During Your Summer Vacation,” accessed June 03, 2016